I don’t want to just go back over everything that Jordan
already said, but I felt like I could give a little bit of a different
perspective on everything.
Jordan’s pregnancy with Jack was like a dream. I was probably too young and stupid to even
know what to worry about, but it flew by without incident and I completely took
it for granted. Maybe partially because
of that, the miscarriages hit hard. It’s
inexplicable how this little person you never even knew can imprint itself
on your heart.
It was quite an
understatement for Jordan to say that the miscarriages were hard on her body. Because of her blood overclotting disorders,
she has to be on blood thinner shots daily from the moment she finds out she is
pregnant. For starters, the thinning
causes bruises all over her body and particularly at the injection sites in her
belly. Every time I go with her to an
appointment and we get a new nurse or doctor, I’m afraid I’ll be arrested for
domestic abuse. She literally looks
beaten. When Jordan had the natural
miscarriage, she was on these shots and they caused or contributed to internal
hemorrhaging and she lost a ton of blood.
When she finally let me take her to the ER, she was ghost white and I
was terrified that I might lose her.
So for me, it was much more than the fear of losing another
baby that made me hesitant to try for a second child for a third time. At that point, I figured that we should just
count our blessings for our little family of three. But, after a lot of thoughtful discussion and
prayer, we decided we would try again.
It is probably content for another blog altogether, but as I’m sure many
of you know, battling infertility is a stressful and difficult struggle all its
own. Ultimately, with the assistance of
fertility medication, we were able to conceive again. It was a difficult pregnancy for all of us
with Mama on bed rest and forced to miss out on family vacations, sporting
events, and lots of things that moms and wives are supposed to be there
for. For Jordan and I, the constantly looming
specter of losing another child haunted us every day.
I don’t remember much about Liliana’s birthday. We were overjoyed to have made it to the
finish line. We couldn’t believe that
this little baby had defied all the odds, even after we had been told she was a
miscarriage and lost a twin. I was
happily sipping my morning coffee and joking with Jordan one moment, and the
next I was spinning the steering wheel frantically trying to regain control,
and the next I was awoken by a group of firefighters using the jaws of life to
cut and pry the door off of my car in order to extract me. The first things I
remember asking them were where Jordan was and how was the baby. They assured me that they were alright, and I
only recall flashes of pulling me from the vehicle and the ensuing trip to the
ER. Once there, the flurry of activity
and my addled mind were dizzying, both literally and figuratively. Strapped to a gurney covered in bruises, with
body full of broken bones and a tube hanging out of my chest, I had only a
brief instant as they wheeled Jordan past on her gurney to say goodbye and good
luck to my wife as they hurried her off for an emergency c-section.
It is only by the grace of God, that we are all still here
and our precious Liliana is a happy, healthy, rambunctious, and very spirited
20 month old.
When the doctor told us it was hydrocephalus, I recognized
the word’s meaning from it Latin roots, but I had no idea about the condition
or the implications. Again, it’s
probably fodder for another type of blog altogether, but I went through some
dark times after the diagnosis. It was
mostly selfish pity. I wanted to know
what I had done to deserve what we had been through over the last two years. I have my many faults, but I’m generally a
good guy. Most people seem to like
me. I’m a hard worker and I’m extremely
loyal to my family and friends. Why
isn’t this happening to some a-hole?
Surely that guy who cut me off on the way to work deserves this more
than we do. I wished it on everybody but
me. I tried my best not to feel any of
it. I drank. A lot.
The state of Kentucky should give me some kind of medal. I’d like to expand on that another time, but let
it suffice to say for now that I haven’t been drunk in nearly two months.
As Jordan said, we never felt quite right about the coming
delivery. That’s not to disparage any of
the doctors, except for Dr. Pearson, the neurosurgeon. I think Jordan was being kind, but I don’t
feel bad calling him out by name. He
should be held accountable for how he treats patients. He may be a skilled neurosurgeon and may even
be a great guy, but he treated us like garbage and there was no excuse for
it. He traumatized and belittled us. There’s a way to present your professional
opinion that is respectful and considerate of your patients. He must’ve missed that class in med school to
groom one of his cats. Oh yeah, the man
raises show cats. And he allows that
fact to be posted on his online profile as if he’s not ashamed of it. That alone should’ve set off the alarms.
We investigated changing hospitals and looking for a new
neurosurgeon. We looked at moving to DFW
or at least sending Jordan to stay there with her parents in order to be able
to receive better care. The neurosurgeons
we contacted had month-long lead times to get in, and we would have to replace
our OB and MFM as well, and the whole process just seemed too daunting
logistically to add to our overflowing plate of stress.
Then we received the CDH diagnosis. What seemed like just one more devastating
blow in a long line of soul-crushing news, I can only now see as nothing less
than a Godly intervention. Seasoned
doctors and ultrasound techs with years of experience diagnosing fetal conditions
would not just mistakenly diagnose this serious life-threatening
condition. Because Sacred Heart lacks
the facilities to handle a CDH, we were transferred to Shands Children’s in
Gainesville (five hours away from home).
Before we even left that first visit, Jordan and I only needed to
exchange a look to tell each other how impressed we were by the people and the
hospital and how much more at peace we were there. The decision had been made for us. All the stress of the logistics was gone and
we would deliver at Shands. The nurses even
put us in contact with Ronald McDonald house, so we would have a place to
stay. At this point, it’s hard not to
look at this “coincidence” and wonder if Juliet would even be alive right now
had the doctors not misdiagnosed the CDH and referred us to Shands. Again, I don’t say any of this to run down any
other hospital, but I just can’t imagine that they have the resources to have
been able to give her the care she needed and still needs.
The day of the delivery, I was a mess. My wife will take great joy at this point in
telling how I turned the wrong way down a one-way street on our half-mile drive
to the hospital. One of her favorite
pastimes is criticizing my driving. I
couldn’t let her see me crack though. I
felt the weight of all of it trying to be her strength and feign my own.
At the hospital, it was an eternity before the nurses
finally called me to the OR. It’s a
bizarre situation looking down at your beautiful wife’s face and then looking
over at her insides exposed. I could
tell that the doctors were struggling to get the baby out, but I kept a smile
on my face and kept telling her how great she was doing. We laughed with the anesthesiologists and
talked about what we’d have for lunch. Jordan had now been without food almost
12 hours. I think that 12 minutes may
have been the previous record during this pregnancy. For most of the pregnancy, her nightstand
looked like a junk food truck crashed through the bedroom wall.
Due to the extreme enlargement of Juliet’s head, it took
quite an effort to get her out. When
they finally pulled her from the womb, she was completely blue, and the size of
her head was, frankly, shocking. I knew
to expect some enlargement, but this was more than I’d ever imagined. She didn’t cry at all, and they immediately
took her to a table on the other side of the room and a team of doctors
surrounded her, obscuring my view.
Jordan asked me why she wasn’t crying, and my heart broke again, but I
managed to tell her that it was ok, they were just working on her. I had never felt such relief as when I heard
one of the doctors exclaim, “We have a pink baby!” I had never felt such a
sense of relief. I was overjoyed.
When I was finally able to go over and see her, it was a
flood of emotion. She was beautiful, big
head and all. I was so elated that she
had survived her birth and so incredibly heartbroken for what I knew she would
have to endure now.
After getting Jordan situated in her recovery, the nurses
eventually informed me that I could come to the NICU to see little Juliet. I sat in a chair next to her in her
bassinet. I looked down at my baby girl
with seemingly innumerable tubes, probes, and wires, covering and protruding
from her tiny body. Her little hands and
feet were dotted with needle sticks from failed IV attempts. I sobbed.
With Jordan away in her recovery room, I finally had a chance to let
myself break. And I did. I had cried about the situation before, but I
was crying for me. I was upset about why
all of this was happening to me, and why I was going through all of this. This time, I wept for my daughter. She was finally much more than black and
white images on an ultrasound screen.
She wasn’t a test or challenge to overcome anymore. She was my beautiful, innocent, perfect
little girl now. And she hadn’t done anything
to deserve this. I would’ve taken it all
on myself in an instant if I could have taken it away from her. I still would.
I don’t really know how to close this. I could write a book – maybe someday I
will. At this point, all we can do is
pray and be there for her. We are
confident that her team of doctors is as good as any in the world, and they are
fighting for her as much as she is and we are.
Our most sincere and humble thanks to all of you who have
held us in your thoughts and prayers. We can hardly fathom the unbelievable outpouring
of love and support that we have received. We couldn’t do this without you. Please continue to lift us up. I don’t know how I could ever express enough
gratitude to those of you who have supported us financially. It is particularly difficult for me, as I’ve
always been proud to provide for my family, but we are overwhelmed right
now. It is my hope and prayer that we
can get through the most difficult times and use our experiences and resources
to help others in need.
Brad, You have me hysterically crying at work. SO well written. Josh and I pray for you all daily and I thank God that Jordan has you by her side. Can't wait to meet sweet baby Juliet!
ReplyDeleteBrad, a family couldn't ask for a better man to lead them than you. Thank you for writing this and giving us perspective. And dude, you sooo have to write a book one day.
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Brad, a family couldn't ask for a better man to lead them than you. Thank you for writing this and giving us perspective. And dude, you sooo have to write a book one day.
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Oh Brad! Amazing perspective. I love your honesty. Show cats? Poor guy. We are constantly lifting y'all up in prayer. Our deepest hurts are our strongest ministry. Love y'all!
ReplyDeleteThe show cats made me laugh and I needed it because I read this at work!!!
DeleteNeil and I have you in our prayers and send you love and strength daily!! Your family is beautiful, your Juliet is amazing and strong. Can't wait to meet her. :) Much love and strength to you all, the Clinemans. :)
ReplyDeleteThat is literally the most touching thing I have ever read. Maybe it's because of the journey that you went through, Brad. Maybe it's because I know you and your family personally. I tried so hard not to cry but I'm sitting here weeping for you. You're such a strong man and a strong husband. Thank you for being Jordan's rock.
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ReplyDeleteHey B! Thank you for sharing your perspective on this very unbelievable story. If I had not been there for all of it, I would believe that what you wrote was going to be a tear-jerker of a fiction novel. Just reading this incredible story I felt all of your pain, heartache and worry and yet I also felt all of your strength, love and happiness. You are an amazing man and a wonderful friend, husband and father. I could only hope that your beautiful daughters marry a man like you one day. Steve and I are truly blessed to have you and your family in our lives. I wouldn't trade y'all for the world. I love you with all that I have. Erica Laine
ReplyDeleteWhat an amazing story of perseverance love and strength. As I sit here and read this my heart breaks, but I find myself extremely encouraged and anticipating what God is going to do in your family's life. Hearing how much you love your wife and your three children makes me think of God's love for us. It's so comforting knowing that God is faithful, sovereign, and loves us more than any love that we have ever experienced before in this life. We have a team of folks praying for you and your family. Trust God lean on him and follow his lead. Love you guys!
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Brad, Holly and I have been praying for you guys. We love your family so very much. Jack has been a joy in Sunday school and we would love to see the next two come through when they are old enough!!!
ReplyDeleteBrad...just want you to know you and Jordan and your family are constantly in our thoughts and prayers. Thanks for sharing your story...my heart aches for you guys, but know God will carry you through this...you and Jordan's faith and love is such an amazing testimony. I have shared your story and have several praying for all of you. You all are such an amazing family and are loved by many.
ReplyDeleteIt's so comforting knowing that God is faithful, sovereign.
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